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‘’Missed Trades, Bias, and Recovery – Dow Jones Trading Journal’’

11/02/2026

INTRO In this Dow Jones trading journal, I document a session filled with missed opportunities, bias, emotional decisions, and eventual recovery.
This post is written for traders who are learning how market structure, patience, and discipline matter more than being right about direction.

MARKET CONTEXT

Date: Monday, 17th November 2025
Market: Dow Jones (YM)
Session: US Open
Market Condition: Volatile with failed breakouts and reversals

So, the 14^th of November bar was on a Friday, and it closed in a doji /hammer style. Now, since Tuesday, the 14^th of October, the market has rallied significantly, going into new ground until Wednesday, the 29^th of October. Then it had a ‘’bad retracement’’ (a bad retracement is when the market overlaps and hardly goes anywhere), and it finished on a Gartley in 50%. With a beautiful bullish hammer bar. Providing a buy signal.

It succeeded in going up into new territory on a great four-bar rally. At which time it made a false break, falling 843 points and making a reversal pattern as well. But now what has happened is that from my research, a big down bar like that followed by a doji bar means the next day should be a bull up bar in more than 85% of the cases.

And this takes us to the current day. I see that the market hasn’t overbalanced the last correction. In fact, it has stopped 36 points above the 1:1. So, for starters, I am bullish on today’s action, but even though I have formed an opinion, I still have to wait and see what the market is telling me once it opens

BIAS & PRE-MARKET ANALYSIS

Looking at the hourly and 15-minute chart, I see that the market has finished exactly on an ABCD, coupled with a 50% retracement. This further strengthens my bullish hypothesis. But I still have to be mindful that the medium-term 3-day trend has been breached and it has closed below, and this signifies a change in trend, and also the market is still under the 50% retracement, which has weakness connotations as well

I am so bullish on this that I am beginning to think I may be very biased and look for any buy opportunity when there isn’t any. I have to wait and see what the market is doing. Looking at the 3 min chart right now, it must break the small double bottom low at 46,864 and break through the 1:1, which is at 46,834. And the above make-or-break levels are the top of Friday’s range, sitting at 47,380, and then the 382%, coupled with the gap from yesterday’s action

FIRST TRADE – BIAS TAKES OVER

The bell has rung, and the market has opened lower than the ABCD. This suggests a continuation down, so let’s see. The second 3-minute bar has reversed and closed up in a strong manner right at resistance from a 618% Gartley, coupled with the LIS (Line in the Sand) from a few weeks ago. Even though it has surpassed the 1:1 ABCD, I will take a long here because it supports my bullish case, and if I look closely and extend the CD line by 1.272%, it will measure to 47,038, and the low is 46,995. I am taking a buy position here, 3 points above the high of the second bar of the day, with the stop below the low of the day

The market has triggered my order, and I am in the market and underwater for 45 minutes now. I am thinking I have made a mistake, and the trade won’t work, but I see it has retraced nicely from the opening price. All in all, I will let it play out, but too much time has passed, and it’s anyone’s game now. I was very sure it was going to go up, but now I am not so sure

The market has made an ABCD and rallied again, but I almost got stopped out. It does not look good so far

We went below the low of today, and I have been stopped out. I am out of the market and assessing my next move. It hurts, but not as much as I would have thought. I tested my hypothesis, and it didn’t play out. It’s funny how you can always find a reason why it didn’t after the fact!

Lesson:

For example, where I took my position long, the market was sitting right at resistance, having surpassed an important ABCD, and it finished the move right in a combined ratio of 618% from CD and 50% from AD. That is the geometry that has pushed the market lower, but I chose to ignore it, so I lost. Alright, now back in the saddle

SECOND ATTEMPT – CONFUSION & OVERTRADING

The market has hit the bottom the 3^rd time, and we have an ABCD right there, the stochastic is oversold, and it has made a reversal pattern with a butterfly pattern in 1.618% attached to it. It is better to sell double bottoms than buy them. The reason is, when traders see weekness they tend to hammer it. That is why markets fall faster than they rise. I will take a long here, and if it goes below the low, I will sell short

So far, the market has agreed with me, but now we have to negotiate a strong resistance zone where the 382%,1:1, LIS, and the open are aligned together. This is strong resistance, and if we go through, we will go much higher, so let’s see

It has blasted through the levels and reversed. It’s to be expected because there is strong resistance there. And yes, it could return the other way, but I will keep the trade, and if it goes above, I will add to it. I forgot to mention I have moved the stop to breakeven after the second bar up

I have added to my trade, and the market has moved above the 50% and is close to the resistance from yesterday

The market is moving sideways, it’s not the action I want, so I’m moving the stop loss to breakeven on the add-on trade

I have been stopped out of both my trades. It hurts! I couldn’t exit at a profit for the first trade. I kept hoping!

📌 Mistake:

What I should have done was to move both stps bellow the trading range that has formed, and after the false break, I should have reversed short because all the signs are there. Hope is a hard thing to negotiate when you are in a trade

We have a 135 pattern with a double bottom pullback in 786% and a reversal bar signal, albeit not a very good one. I will take a long here 3 points above the18:12 bar with a stop 3 points below the low. And if it fails, I will go short if it reaches the triple bottom, as usually the 4^th time brings on a good trade, I will wait and see

I have been stopped out in no time. I am out of the market and waiting on the sidelines. Today hasn’t gone very well for me so far

We have made a new low at 48,855. The 4^th try has held, and we may see the market going up. I would have sold, but it did not go 3 points below the low bar. The market came down and, after a short retracement, proceeded to move down in a ‘’bad continuation’’ fashion. That is always a sign of reversal in my book, but I see I have been making all the wrong decisions so far.

FINAL TRADE – PROCESS RETURNS

Market reversed, and I have sold it at the 4^th low

I have moved the stop up to breakeven after the second bar down after the entry. And we have overbalanced the previous correction to a major degree, so let’s see what will happen. The market has gone down close to the big ABCD from the day’s action and is showing signs of bad continuation

The market has moved through the ABCD and overbalanced. This is usually a good sign that the trend will continue. I have my eyes on the 46,495 low as a possible target. That being said, it is 19:36 now, so I want to protect some profit, so I will move my stop down 3 points above the 19:36 bar

I have moved my stop loss again

We have gone below the 46,495 major low. I have moved my stop down two more times, and I was finally taken out of the market. I have lost two trades, which total – 217 points, and won one trade, which has made me +374 points for a total of + 157 points. This would have been a good day in the end.

But I risk 3% of my account per trade. That 3% is divided by the number of points I risk, and it gives me my stake (how much I put per point). And after all that, the amount I made is a measly £78 from a £5000 account. If the account were bigger, it would have been a pretty good day. This goes to show that the amount of points you win doesn’t always translate to what you would think. And the market has moved sideways to up from that false break into the close

📌 Key Lesson:
Points do not equal money.
Account size and risk management matter more than being right.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Trading Lessons from This Session

Bias blinds you to resistance
Missed trades are better than forced trades
Structure beats opinion
Risk management defines results, not points

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“Dow Jones Intraday Trading Analysis | Market Structure & Volatility”

03/02/2026

This Dow Jones intraday trading analysis documents how I approached a volatile market session using structure rather than prediction. The market opened with increased volatility, and my focus was on how the price reacted around key retracement levels, ABCD patterns, and the average true range. I was not interested in guessing direction but in observing what the market was doing and responding accordingly.

Throughout the session, I paid close attention to false breaks, overbalance, and how the price behaved around support and resistance. Entries were taken only when the structure aligned, and stops were adjusted as the market provided confirmation. While profits were made, there were moments when I questioned whether stops were moved too aggressively. This breakdown is not about perfection, but about execution, discipline, and learning from the decisions made in real time.

On the 13^th of November 2025, the Dow Cash market fell 843 points. About 300 points more than the average at the time, and stopped at the major 50% retracement, which provided support. This pattern here is showing me, based on my research, that a continuation is possible of at least half the points of the 13^th of November daily bar. I will have to wait and see…

The 3-day medium trend at 46,934 is still up, but from a stochastic point of view is overbought. And the 50% support has been breached slightly. In my opinion, right now the market will move lower, but I have to wait and see what signs I will receive once the market opens.

The market has opened on a gap down below the 618% 500 points down, and the average true range is 580 points. Right now, it has made a false break of the 3-day low and 786% and did not overbalance the 1:1 with the previous correction. This is a buy signal in my book, but I will wait for further confirmation.

We now have a small ABCD into a double bottom in 786%, and the ATR has been taken out by 18 points. I will buy 3 points above this 15:15 bar and put a stop 3 points below the range

The market pushed above the ABCD and LIS resistance, which is a good sign for now. Not a strong move up, though. I have moved stop to breakeven.

I have added to the position on a breakout

I have moved both stops up

I HAVE ADDED ONE MORE TIME

I have moved my stops up, and I am waiting to see if it will reach the 382%, which is at yesterday’s close

And the 15:48 bar has taken me out. First trade +267p, second trade +92p, third trade has lost me -53p. For a total of +306p. I could have stayed longer in the market, but I was afraid my profit would be much reduced. So, I moved my stops up and took a good profit. I am pleased with the outcome, but I can’t shake the feeling that I should have waited a bit longer and not moved the stops so close

Right now, I am pleased that I have exited the market because I would have been stopped out at a much lower profit. This is interesting, though, because we have made an ABCD balanced retracement a few points above the 382% of the whole move, which is right at a known support level, and the market has closed up. This suggests a long again. The only thing I don’t like is that it has overbalanced the 170 points of the last correction.

That trade would have been a loss if I had gone long. I will stop trading for the day. I am pleased with the profit

It has gone up 517 points. It is now 18:48, and I can see two possibilities…

Given that the market is at a 382% RET paired with support and an ABCD, it has a chance to go and reach yesterday’s closing, where incidentally the big 382% of the past two days is. Or because we have gone up so much, we might see a trading range up until closing. I am more in favour of the trading range scenario, so let’s see

This is what happened next… The 3-day low has held, and the market has closed above the 50%, so it is still in a strong position. The daily bar is a doji bar. A down bar followed by a doji bar in my research suggests the next-day bar should be bullish. We will just have to wait and see

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Missed First Trade Of The Day

29/01/2026

Ok, this day is the 13^th of Nov 2025, and I am looking at the Dow Jones market. The 3-day trend is up, and the 50% balance point is bullish. So, the medium-term trend is up. This is our starting point for the day…

Going down from the daily to 1 hr and 15 min time frames, we see that the market has formed a bullish rectangle. The 1:1 with the last correction is 396 points down at 48,.038 exactly, where major support lies from the old high.

We are in no man’s land right now. The average true range is at 514 points. The ranges have expanded. Yesterday’s range went up 503 points, then returned to congestion.

Looking at the 3 min chart, if the market exceeds yesterday’s high, I will look for long trades. If it moves below the 1:1 and support levels at 48,038, then I will look for short trades.

The market has opened on a gap down right at the ABCD, exceeding it but closing up. The market has hit support, reversed and made a small ABCD, saying it might want to go down. I won’t take a short here because it is quite a weak signal. Now it has penetrated the day low. It’s 15:21, and the market can’t break through; it is in a trading range right now

The market has made a perfect 382% in resistance. That is a sell signal, but I did not see it at the time. And now it has reached the 1:1, exceeding it slightly

It’s 15:57, and I have missed a good trade. The market has closed the gap from yesterday

The market moved down violently, and I have sold the first major retracement. The first one rarely holds. Then it overbalanced the first correction, which would mean the trend might be in trouble. But it made an ABCD balanced correction. So that gave me trust to sell the double bottom and move the stop on the first position at breakeven. Now at the big 382%, I have moved both stops 3 points above the bar that touched the 382%

I have moved my stops after the 382% on the high of each bar that closed below the previous bar. There were two bars, and after a tight trading range, I was taken out of the market. I have made 175p + 92p= 267 points. I find it pretty good, it is now 19:30, and I will stop for today. I am still upset because I have missed the first trade.

The market succeeded in reaching the 50%, coupled with major support and closed on that level. Great trend day! The market fell 843 points. It still did not turn the 3-day trend down, but if the 50% fails, the market is in a weak position

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Focusing on what you want? Why is it destroying you?

16/11/2024

Focusing on what you want may not be what can move you forward. I know this may seem paradoxical and counterintuitive and go against everything that everyone is preaching. Single focus on one thing and one thing only where I have to have that thing is a hoax. It’s something that people have made up when they could not put in words or otherwise explain how they got success.

Let me ask you this then… ‘’Why do so many people who go to self-development seminars fail? I mean don’t the teachers provide the same framework that helped them get rich or have a ‘’better life’’? Why don’t they succeed?

And the reason is that they focus on it too much. They want it and they go out to get it. They try and try and try again and fail miserably. Why is that? It’s because they want it too much! And when you want something too much you also have the fear in the back of your mind that it may not happen. You may be aware of that feeling sometimes but you push it away. Thinking that you shouldn’t have it, that you should only focus on the result. ‘’You should only focus on the result’’ is the most sought-after answer.

This is why people fail in relationships, in work, in business, and even in bed when you really want to have an orgasm, you don’t, because you arrest the natural process by striving to have something which only happens if you let it happen naturally.

The best thing anyone can do is to go and do the thing that they want to do and accept any result that may come after putting in all this effort. Accept that maybe you may never get the thing you are pursuing. Now this is fear at its highest, because people will ask… but why go for it if I expect it to fail? To which I would say, you are not expecting to fail, you are just not tied to the result.

And when you are not tied to the result freedom happens. You shoot the hoop at exactly the right moment, you make the decision at exactly the right moment, you end the relationship at exactly the right moment and you move on with a lightness in your heart.

You know you have done all that is to be done and are content with it. If you can do this, you will be happy even if you fail at something. Because it is not the end of the world and it is not the end of you.

You can move on and change or correct course with a level head, and thinking is not affected by the setback. You will be able to continue where others can’t, because you are now unaffected by your circumstances, by what happens or what comes your way. You know that you can always do something. You know you can move forward.

But if you still hold on to the result when you have a setback, you feel stuck, you feel the world is coming to an end and you cannot think of a way out. And that is how people remain stuck for many, many years. They just hold on and can’t seem to let go. Please reconsider your grasp on the result of whatever you are doing and you will see, as I have, that life will get easier and easier until each day when you wake up you have happiness in your heart and enjoy your day.

Thank you

Peace and love 😊

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Going Into The Darkness And Coming Out Into The Light

12/08/2024

So, what do I mean by going into the darkness and coming out into the light? Well, I mean that you face your fears and you overcome them. By facing your fears, you will learn just how big of a grasp they have on you. You can think about them all you want and can make plans as much as you like but it will never change anything.

Facing your demons is the only way you will ever accomplish anything! I like that statement because everyone uses it, everyone intuitively knows and believes it is the truth. But the paradox is, almost nobody is willing to try it. They may be fed up with the fears or limitations they have. But then, after a few short days or sometimes weeks of trying to get out of it, or to conquer it, they give up.

It becomes too hard and too real at the same time. So, they quit. And then another period where they get fed up comes and they try again. And again, it becomes too real or too hard and they quit, and the cycle keeps repeating itself and no one ever gets anywhere. And then old age comes, and you see the futility of what you have done until now. And now… well now it’s too late to do something about it.

Against any popular belief there always comes a time when it’s too late to do anything about it. And when you reach that point, regret sets in, and your heart will be sorrowed. Because you know if you just kept at it eventually you would have gotten it. But you didn’t!

Now this is the story of 80% of the population. That is a massive percentage and knowing it makes you think… ‘’If I will regret this when I am old, why the h**l stop now? Why, if it’s hard, stop. If I’ll regret it, why stop?’’

Well, the thing is… you think you have time. You think you have time to succeed at it. And if you fail now, maybe you try again later. This can be in anything. I once saw a lady saying she needs to stop letting people take advantage of her and she was over sixty. I always wanted a six-pack, but I never really went to the gym more than a couple of months each time. Thinking I have time. Now I’m in my mid thirty’s and still don’t have a six-pack. And if I go on like this I may never will!

The point is you need to do it! And it’s going to be uncomfortable at first, it will hurt, it will feel the worst. But then it gets a little bit better and a little bit better and a little bit better and so on until you can’t remember when you felt or looked like that. And that is moving through life in the top 20% of people. Life is not just to be survived. life is to be lived!

Love

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Why do we not reach our goals?

17/06/2024

In other words, why don’t you do what you say you’re going to do? Why don’t you go further than what you perceive is needed? I don’t know how better to answer those questions than by telling you a story. With a scientifically proven method ingrained in it…

Let’s say you want to get rich. Have enough money that you will be comfortable and can play a little with. Buy nice cars and whatever you’re interested in. And you think of a business and start working at it. And you work and you work, and a few years go by with nothing to show.

Now you are getting restless. You feel burnt out. And you lose your motivation. And you just go through the motions. But you don’t believe you’re going to make it anymore. It’s taken too long and you’re tired. Psychologically you’re spent. You don’t want it anymore!

But you’ve put so many years and resources into this. Are you just going to give it all up? Are you just going to stop? And listen to all your friends and family who see how miserable you’ve become. You can! And there is no shame in that if you believe the business, you’re pursuing is not worth it or it can’t be successful.

But deep down you know you don’t want to quit. And at one point you stop caring if you’re going to succeed. You work at your business, but now… You have time for your family, your friends, and anyone who needs your help. You go to work, and it doesn’t bother you anymore. If you have results, it’s great and if you don’t it’s also great!

And you see you get momentum. You start having the enthusiasm you had at the beginning. But you have it with a truckload of experience now. And you start to have small successes. And small successes turn into bigger and bigger successes.

What just happened here? You’ve gone from wanting to quit and hating your life to moving forward and being happier in the process. Well, you’ve gone through what I call ‘’hitting the wall’’. Scientists call it the hope study. But I prefer ‘’hitting the wall’’.

You see when you think you can’t anymore. You’ve just hit the wall. It’s your body and brain’s way of telling you you’ve reached the threshold. From then on, your brain and body don’t know what will happen. What damage can occur? So, they try to stop you.

But by accepting that you will go on even if you may not get what you want. You have short-circuited that resistance. And now you have freedom. And the extent to which you can go is basically endless. You see, most people stop when they hit the wall. Even if they think they have moved past the wall a long time now. They haven’t! How can I tell…

Because when you hit the wall and move past it, you don’t care or need results anymore. You just do what you want to do. And you do it without fear. Or if the fear is there. You don’t care anymore. But this is not a sad predicament. You feel alive and energetic. And you put to use your experience. And it’s a great way of living and working.

Hope this helps and inspires you to keep on going!

Peace 😊

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‘’Why Giving Your Best Keeps You Stuck’’

21/05/2024

We all are taught in this Western culture to give our best. To strive to become the best at what we do. To be the all or end all. To go beyond what is possible and succeed in life with flying colors. Because that is when we will be enough.

We must work our a*s off in such a way that nobody can deny our presence. But this thinking, if you really look at it, is very flawed. And why is that? Aren’t we supposed to want the best for ourselves? Aren’t we supposed to be better, to help others, to provide everything for our families? How can you say that?

Well, look at it like this…

Every person that goes out of their way with the thinking that they have to be the best, to give their best, or just dominate so they can get what they want. Has failed to be just that.

If you look at documentaries of great people. You will see that they never thought about giving their best. They never wanted to get out the greatest product or be the best that they could be at their sport. Even if they say in interviews that they did. If you study their life, that is not the way they operate.

That is one of the reasons that watching their interviews and trying to do what they say can be and is very challenging. Because it is not true. They may think it’s true. But as I’ve said if you study their life and habits. They are doing exactly the opposite of what they ‘’think’’ they are doing. So, what is that thing they’re doing…

In a few words… ‘’They just do!’’

They go out and do things. They try and they fail and get up and try again. They don’t try to be the best or give their best. Every athlete who has ever succeeded does this. They just go for it! That is the underlying theme. Of course, they want to win. But it’s ok if they don’t!

Now for the average person. Not getting what you want the first time. Feels like the end of the world. And they think ‘’ I need to do better!’’. So, they try to be better next time. And they fail. And they try to be better. And fail again. Until they reach a point where they give up. And settle for less.

The act of trying to be the best, of trying to give your best, of having to succeed. Puts a bind on your actions. In other words, it keeps you back. It keeps you from fulfilling your dreams. Because you just have to have them!

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How To Choose to Be Happy

09/08/2023

Yes, you read that right. We choose to be happy! We don’t wait for happiness to just happen. We need to choose that state. But we don’t do it because we think that is not natural. You can’t just choose to be happy. Happiness has to come to you, doesn’t it? It needs something to happen so that I can feel happy. I can’t just be happy without anything happening because that is just fake.

That is how we feel on a daily basis. I once told my wife that I could feel happiness and a feeling of great joy by just using my thoughts alone. And she looked at me and said… ‘’Yeah! But isn’t that fake’’?

And that is how all of us feel. We have thought since we were kids that happiness should come from achieving the things that we desire. If we don’t get them, it means that we have no reason to be happy. And furthermore, we should maybe feel a little sad. Because that might push us to get the thing that we perceive will bring us happiness.

But that is a way of thinking that has brought more sadness in the world than anything else. That thought that you can only be happy when you achieve something or receive something that you desire brings only misery and heartache.

Think about it for a moment. Let’s say you’re in love with someone and they reciprocate that love back. You feel tremendous joy and exuberance that nothing can compare. And after a while, you break up. Because even if you are so in love, the relationship is extremely toxic. And you feel sad for a while but come to reason that it was for the best. And you sometimes think of them and how it was in the beginning. And you get this rush of happiness and joy. What just happened there?

The person is no longer in your life. But you just manufactured those feelings inside of you. On your own! Just by thinking about it. That means that you can evoke them anytime you desire. You can feel tremendous joy and happiness by just choosing to feel it. And not wait for something outside to trigger you into feeling happiness.

What I did was, when I stumbled upon this. Was to think of a time when I was truly and utterly happy. I remembered that feeling. And then I looked at what part of the body I felt. And then I repeated the feeling in my mind and tightened that body part. Which for me is the throat. And now whenever I want to feel happy, I activate it and I feel happy and joy and well-being.

But something else happened after that. By doing this daily I started to look at things differently. Only going outside and looking at the sky fills me with joy. Doing small stuff fills me with joy. I look at things with more kindness and warmth. I slowed down and stopped to smell the roses so to speak. And it’s a wonderful feeling to be in.

This does not mean I don’t have bad days. But they are more manageable. And they pass more quickly than before.

You originate happiness. It doesn’t just happen to you. You do it!

And if you understand this concept, you will bring something into your life that will change everything. The way you are now will get an upgrade so to speak. Life will begin to be filled with joy and exuberance every day. And in my book, that’s all worth it!

Thank you!

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Do Ideas Make Our Lives Better?

24/07/2023

Do ideas make our lives better? That is a question of magnitude proportions. So why am I saying that? Is it because I don’t think ideas are improving our life or business or whatever it may be?

Questions, questions, questions. We ask questions all the time. When will my life start? Or when will I get that raise or when will I be happy? And so on!

But the thing is, we only ask these questions because we are not happy where we are. So, we look for ideas that will enhance our life. And the biggest one of all…

Is the idea of making a business that will bring enough money so that we are comfortable or even rich. Isn’t it?

We put our life on hold. And we think we will be happy when we realize our idea and our plan. And we will have no worries at all. Everything will be perfect!

We will have no more money problems or any kind of problems. We will have a better house, in a better neighborhood. We will go out and not worry about money. Or we could take care of our family better. In other words…

‘’We are waiting for our life to start!’’

But here is the kicker… 99.9% of the people stop at the idea level. Yes, you read that well. So, what we do is…

We have an idea to better our life and we keep it with us all the time. We think how it will change our lives and we imagine how good our life will be. But we don’t take any action toward making it a reality. Or we take some little steps, sometimes. And then we put it on the shelf for when we are not that busy. So, we stay stuck!

After a while of keeping this idea in our heads. We start thinking we will succeed no matter what because we have thought about it so much. And years go by and nothing changes. We are where we left off. Only worse, because now we are older, and we have more responsibilities.

So, you see, thinking about something and doing it are two separate things. Once we have an idea that we think will better our life. We should immediately act on it. Take a small step toward making it a reality. And then every day do something that propels you forward. And if you do that, two things will happen…

You will have success, or you will find out that it’s not for you. Each of these two things has given you a great gift. If it did work, you succeeded faster than just procrastinating and waiting for the right moment that may have never come.

And if you didn’t, you learned very fast that that idea was not for you. You may find out that you don’t really like it, or you are just not that good at that particular thing. And that is wonderful news. Because you did not wait for years to get that answer. And now you are free to think about something else. That may work!

We don’t start because we are afraid to fail. And we think that if we give it more time or think about it more our chances of success will be higher. But as you see, that is not the case. That just breeds inaction and insecurity. And you will never lift off the ground on your journey.

So, start! And just do! Act on your ideas so you can see if they work. Because if you don’t. You will wait for something that may never come.

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Asking For Help

28/05/2023

The Hidden Superpower

I don’t know why, but asking for help always came easily to me. I don’t know how to do many things. I only do the things that I am interested in. But I resolve to do everything that comes my way by asking for help.

I will go out and ask anybody who will listen and most of the time I get what I want. Without me even doing the work. And I don’t pay for it either (most of the time; sometimes I give a little gift as a thank you). Asking is just that powerful!

But most people don’t do it. Partly because they want to do it themselves and partly because it’s very hard for them to ask. Because what if the person says no?

Well, I hate to break it to you, but if the person says no, then you are no worse than you were before. Do you understand that?

Because if you do. Then you are on your way to success in getting the help you want or need. And always trying to do things by ourselves comes from being afraid to ask. In other words…

‘’Being afraid of rejection.’’

And rejection hurts. Sometimes it hurts so bad we can’t even take it. But what is it about rejection that hurts so bad? And the answer is…

‘’We want to be liked and we want the thing we are asking for.’’

If the statement above doesn’t make any sense let me explain…

As long as you are attached to the outcome you will feel fear. Fear of not getting it or not being liked. But if instead of that, you let go of the outcome and you say… ‘’I will just ask and see what will happen’’. No psychological damage will incur. And you will be free to move forward.

There is something in this world called paradoxical intention. Coined by the famous psychologist Dr. Viktor Frankl. Which basically states that whatever you are trying to do you will get the opposite. In other words, if you are trying to do something you will most likely fail at it. Because you are trying to get it. And that puts a bind on it. It can’t happen naturally anymore so it fails. Try telling a baby to play because you want somebody to see him play. It will just bug the child and don’t know what to do. Because playing comes naturally. He doesn’t have to think about it.

I played volleyball for many years. And whenever I would try to succeed at doing something in practice or in a game. I would fail miserably. But when I would just do the thing and not even think about succeeding at it. It always came through.

I remember once, when our team was asked by some scientists from the university of medicine in my home town. To come and help them in a study by having them read our brain wave patterns. We said yes and went there. Now, the chief scientist was never an athlete. And she was asking me about how I prepared for doing a particular drill at practice. She went on by saying… ‘’You really need to focus and be conscious of every move you make to succeed at it’’.

And before I could answer, her assistant, a young undergraduate student. Who played basketball said… ‘’It’s best when you don’t think about it, isn’t it?’’. And I said yes. And the head scientist was a bit shocked about the answer.

This goes to show that we get in our own way by trying to succeed at the thing we want. In this case, asking for help. We need that yes. And because we need it, we become stuck.

All the people that have succeeded, have used this principle of not caring about the outcome and just doing. If you look at all the famous billionaires right now and listen to their stories of how they got to where they got. You will see that at some point they hit rock bottom, or they loved what they did so much that the outcome didn’t matter.

You see it, especially in the stories where they have hit rock bottom. People misunderstand it. They think that at rock bottom the only way is up. But I’m here to tell you it isn’t. If you hit rock bottom and still cling to the outcome (your life or money). You will sink lower until it’s all over.

But what happened to these people who succeeded was that when they were at their lowest. They gave up wanting the riches or the fame or anything. A calm came over them and they just went forward with no desire. They have accepted the worst thing it could possibly happen. And they became ok with it.

So, by removing their blockages. They freed up their energy, and it was all uphill from there.

So, to sum up…

Ask for help and stop caring about the outcome. Stop caring if the person laughs at you or thinks you’re stupid or whatever. Just ask! And your life will change!

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