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How To Change Your Emotion ”Fast”

How To Change Your Emotion ''Fast''

I developed the ‘’I’ll do it tomorrow’’ technique (post here) for myself some time ago. But sometimes when someone has just upset you so hard and you nee to change your emotion . And you are in a setting where you can’t put that person to respect immediately. It may not work as fast as you need it. So, I am experimenting with something I call ‘’perspective shift’’. And it goes like this…

Someone, at work, for example, has upset you so much you want to punch them in the face on the spot. You are fuming! To say the least. And you can’t do anything about it. Because if you do. There will be bigger consequences. Now trying to change how you feel won’t work. Why?

Because if that is what you will do. The feelings will just grow stronger. And you will take the anger at home with you. So, the best way to deal with this, is to have a perspective shift about the event or individual that produced these strong hateful emotions in you. Because you don’t want them anymore. So let me give you an illustration of this. Let’s say…

You had an argument with a colleague, he stole your work, and he got recognition for it.

You are fuming and just can’t stop the hate that you have. But you need to pull yourself together. So, what you do is…

Go to your desk take a few breaths and change your perspective about the event. You may say for example… My work got recognition, which is great. That means I know what I’m doing, and I will not make the same mistake twice with this guy. I know he doesn’t give a s**t so I don’t need to pretend I like him anymore. I can return the favour to him 10-fold. I just have to be patient. It is good it happened now. And not with something more important, etc.

By changing or shifting your perspective. Your emotions will subside. And you will be able to carry on working next to the as****e that did what he did.

The way we interpret things controls our emotions. We can never stop the emotions we’re having. But we can consciously change how we interpret them. Even if sometimes it’s not true. But for the moment we are free and can conduct ourselves well for the rest of the day.

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I’ll Do It Tomorrow

I’ll Do It Tomorrow

This is the procrastinator’s preferred phrase. It’s used because we truly believe that we will do the thing we need to do tomorrow. Such as…

‘’I’ll do it tomorrow because there’s still time’’

So, I got to thinking about this. Started experimenting with it. And turned it into a technique I am currently using. It’s called the ‘’I’ll do it tomorrow technique’’. And it works like this…

If I feel very sad or low at some point during the day or just plain hate somebody for something they did. And I don’t want to feel like that. I stop and look at what I’m feeling and say ‘’I’ll feel like this tomorrow and then some. But now, I’ll just carry on’’

And what I’ve found was. I start feeling better. Because I acknowledge the feelings. I don’t block them. But just differ them in the future i.e., tomorrow. And as any good procrastinator knows…

Tomorrow never comes!

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Following The Recipe

Following The Recipe

You hear all these gurus giving their formula for success. Some of them honestly believe, it will help people reach their goals like they did theirs. But they forget something. Or rather don’t even consider it, such as…

‘’You are not them’’

They have something that makes that formula work. It’s in them, forged from their life experiences. That is why so many people trying to emulate them fail and give up and then move to another guru. Who they think (at that moment) has the secret to success.

I look at Sir Richard Branson, Jeff Bezos, Elon Musk, John Paul DeJoria (my favorite), etc. They all have formulas for their success. The only problem is that they’re tailored to them.

I’ve struggled with this for a long time and the result I arrived at is…

I need a starting point. So, I will take the formula that resonates with me and my habits. And then make it my own. I need to make it mine, so I can succeed. Otherwise, I’m just going to be where I am for a long time and never move forward.

But how do I make it my own?

That is one simple question with a complex answer. We need to find that for ourselves. What I resolved to do is…

Try the formula how it is and see the results. Based on the results. I will incorporate my habits and things I like to do. And see where that gets me. Then again, I look at the results and change even further. It’s still a work in progress. But I find it to be the best way so far.

We are thought we should abandon our ‘’bad’’ habits and do what they do. But our bad habits may just be the key to our success. So, look closely at everything you did when you had success. And what was your behaviour at that time. Look at that and incorporate it into the guru’s formula. And you might just surprise yourself!

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