The List Of Truths

28/11/2022

The List Of Truths

We all fear stress and still, we are in a state of stress all the time. We fear fear and again we are in a state of fear all the time. We are stressed or fearful about this and that. All day long!

So much so that it has become part of our personality. And feel uneasy if we are not in those states, which we perceive as being detrimental to our lives, our work, and our families.

We are so focused on these bad states that we don’t even think or put into perspective what they actually bring us. We know they bring bad things or states, but we just move on. And try to not look too much into it. Because (we think) it will make us even more stressed or fearful or whatever.

But the truth is, we need to look right at them. Stare them in the face and see what actually is going on.

‘’What do those states bring me?’’

So, I have devised a tool for myself. In which I list the emotion and ask what it brings into my life. And it goes something like this…

What does prolonged stress bring into my life? (I have said prolonged because a little bit of stress is good)

It shuts off my thinking and makes me stupid
It keeps me in fight or flight mode. So, my organs don’t receive the blood they need (because all of it goes to my limbs) and proper nutrients and I get ill
If it turns into a shock. It rewires my brain instantly to a negative state

What being shy gives me?

Women don’t like me or friendzone me
I get used by many people because I can’t say no
They perceive me as weird

What does fear bring into my life?

It brings me anxiety
It makes me uneasy
It brings about the event I am fearing

So, by looking at all this. By looking at the concrete things, these states bring me. It shows me accepting to be in them. I am cutting myself short of the very things I want in my life. So, what to do?…

The easiest answer is’’ Stop Being in Them.’’

It might sound stupid. But if you ponder a little bit on it. You might just find the beauty, this simple answer gives you.

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Accessing ”Godlike” Power

19/11/2022

Accessing ''Godlike'' Power

I have become to respect Ant Middleton, a former special forces soldier. He’s charismatic on screen and has a great, almost philosophical answer to hard questions. But most people are more interested in how many has he killed and how, than listening to the amazing advice he is sharing.

I just saw an interview with him (video here, min 2:50) talking about what he calls ‘’The Godlike Feeling’’. Where he describes exactly what happens when bullets fly over your head. He goes on to saying that everything slows down and you are in full control of your body, and you feel you can almost control time. In other words, you are fully in the moment, ready and alert in perfect sync.

This is a well-documented fight or flight reaction. Where the brain perceives an immediate and imminent danger. And starts working at an extremely high speed. Every sense is heightened to the max. You see things in slow motion. It feels you have all the time in the world. It’s like being outside of time (think of Flash the superhero). You have time to think and react in milliseconds. Which to you feels like a long time.

I have never been in a gun fight, but I have had that experience…

When I was young, I used to love fireworks. And every New Year’s I would spend it at my Grandparents house with, back then, my best friend Aurel. One New Year’s we had those exploding fireworks. That you light and quickly throw and they explode. We decided it would be fun to hold them for longer and when the flame went out to throw them in the air. And they would explode up there. And it was fun.

But one of them. Blew up immediately in my face. At that point I have experienced the ‘’Godlike feeling’’ Ant is talking about. My brain sped up and I saw in slow motion the shrapnel from the firework flying all around my head. I remember being extremely calm and watching them go by with circles of smoke behind them. It felt it lasted for a long time. But it was less than a second. My brain positioned my head so perfectly that none of the shrapnel hit me. And I was able to have a happy New Year’s.

So how can we access this at will?

Well, the only state I know that resembles this is being in the ‘’Flow’’. When you’re in the flow you are all there. There is no thinking, just doing. You act on your training and use all your senses instantly. You have time to think and see everything clearly.

We need 3 things for this to occur…

let go of the result (the result does not matter, you just do your best in that moment)
let go of what you have (fame, money or anything that is tied to what you are doing, be willing to lose)
and accept whatever happens (accept losing and move forward)

Just focus on the next action. And see whatever happens as history!

Look at Larry Bird in this video . He doesn’t even look to see if the ball goes in the hoop. He just focuses on the next one. He has total detachment. He misses and doesn’t even flinch. He goes right to the next. It’s all history until the next one. If you can do that. You’re in the flow or ”Godlike state”.

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