How To Change Your Emotion ''Fast''
I developed the ‘’I’ll do it tomorrow’’ technique (post here) for myself some time ago. But sometimes when someone has just upset you so hard and you nee to change your emotion . And you are in a setting where you can’t put that person to respect immediately. It may not work as fast as you need it. So, I am experimenting with something I call ‘’perspective shift’’. And it goes like this…
Someone, at work, for example, has upset you so much you want to punch them in the face on the spot. You are fuming! To say the least. And you can’t do anything about it. Because if you do. There will be bigger consequences. Now trying to change how you feel won’t work. Why?
Because if that is what you will do. The feelings will just grow stronger. And you will take the anger at home with you. So, the best way to deal with this, is to have a perspective shift about the event or individual that produced these strong hateful emotions in you. Because you don’t want them anymore. So let me give you an illustration of this. Let’s say…
You had an argument with a colleague, he stole your work, and he got recognition for it.
You are fuming and just can’t stop the hate that you have. But you need to pull yourself together. So, what you do is…
Go to your desk take a few breaths and change your perspective about the event. You may say for example… My work got recognition, which is great. That means I know what I’m doing, and I will not make the same mistake twice with this guy. I know he doesn’t give a s**t so I don’t need to pretend I like him anymore. I can return the favour to him 10-fold. I just have to be patient. It is good it happened now. And not with something more important, etc.
By changing or shifting your perspective. Your emotions will subside. And you will be able to carry on working next to the as****e that did what he did.
The way we interpret things controls our emotions. We can never stop the emotions we’re having. But we can consciously change how we interpret them. Even if sometimes it’s not true. But for the moment we are free and can conduct ourselves well for the rest of the day.