The hardest thing we humans are called upon to do is… ‘’To Start’’. This has always baffled me. Why is it so hard for me to do things? I have all these great aspirations. But when it’s time to do them, I falter like a sloth.

The desire was always there but I couldn’t do it, so I began to think I was lazy. The years flew by. And no real success came my way. Until I would have enough. And I would start doing the thing that I so desired. And it was wonderful I started to get results. I enjoyed it. There was no laziness in sight 😊.

And then something would happen. Maybe a holiday or I would get the flu and stop. Well, after that I went to my old way of behaving. And couldn’t make myself do the thing that I so desperately wanted to do. Even knowing that I enjoyed doing it.

It all stopped! There was no real progress after that. And it infuriated me.

So, I looked for an answer. Why does this happen to me? It was always in the back of my mind. And Trump saved the day. I have acquired a program that he and his team did on money. I didn’t listen to all of it. Because I thought it wasn’t that good (maybe it was, I don’t know). But right at the beginning, there was a scientist and she explained exactly what was happening to me.

I was over the moon. And this is what she said…

‘’We humans conserve energy. We are very bad at changing direction. So, if you want to work on your business when you come home from work. And you go sit on the couch first and watch something. The odds are you won’t be able to change direction. And won’t go work on your business’’.

I was not the only one in this. It’s a studied human condition…

This blew my mind, and it was the answer I was looking for. I always felt I wasn’t lazy. But I didn’t know how to handle it. And this is the mechanism why when you build momentum. You go further and further. Because it takes less and less energy to do it.

But results didn’t come fast. I have had the answer but still…

I couldn’t apply it!

It was hard to change direction. And when I did, I had momentum. And when I stopped, I stopped for good. Again, no real success. Very frustrating!

I had the answer but applying it was hell. We all search for answers and so many times we don’t know what to do with them when we do get them. And dismiss them. And search for something else. And then years later you have an ‘’aha’’ moment which was the exact same thing as the answer you found earlier. It just took you years to internalize it.

Good salespeople know this very well… if you want someone to buy, you must guide them in such a way, that they think they came up with the idea of buying in the first place. And then the sale’s done in a heartbeat.

So that is what happened to me. Years later I had an ‘’aha’’ moment. I knew I wasn’t to blame for my condition of not starting. So, I got to thinking…

Everybody is saying… ‘’your words have power, so use them carefully’’.

What If I change the word ‘’hard’’. As in <it’s hard to go to work> to <It’s easy to go to work>’’

My mantra became… ‘’It’s easy to do and it’s easy not to do’’.

As in, it’s easy to go to work, and it’s easy not to go to work. Overall, it’s easy!

And my life changed!

I have found the second piece of the puzzle. Something so simple and yet extremely powerful. Absolutely beautiful! I knew I wasn’t lazy and now I found an easy way to get the ball rolling. It ‘’only’’ took me many years to understand, But easy!

And now I always take care of what words I use. And how I talk to myself.

The words that come out of our mouths have a bigger impact than we think. Especially the ones we say to ourselves. So…

When you talk to yourself. Even more so after some mistake, you’ve made. Do not reprimand yourself. Do not say ‘’I’m such an idiot’’ or anything else bad you might say to yourself. I know we can get very creative when we insult ourselves. But just say something kind, like…

‘’I knew this was a mistake. And I still did it! And that’s ok, I still love you! And I know next time I will think twice before doing that again’’.

That mindset will set you free… As simple as it may be!