On Being A Real Man
We are surrounded by feminists, equal rights movements, toxic masculinity, and so on. Men don’t know their place anymore. I hear this idea of raising children not knowing their sex so they will identify with what they want. I mean talk about a stupid idea. And I’m not even being mean.
Women say they want a ‘’real man’’. But they started raising pu****s. If you ask a woman what a real man is. They can’t put it into words. All they can muster up is… A man that loves me, takes good care of me, is gentle and kind, and provides for our family. They believe that is what they want. They truly believe that. And I don’t condone it. But here is the kicker…
They don’t go for that type of man when they are young. They go for the bad boy, because he’s exciting. And when they’re about to turn 30 they want security. The bad boy still excites them but this other guy that can take care of a family makes more logical sense to marry.
Driving Uber, I hear this kind of story between friends reaching 30…
-That guy at the party was so hot
-Yeah, I know he’s young but so attractive
-How’s it going with you and the guy your seeing
-It’s going well, I think I love him, and were probably going to get married
-You think you love him?
-Yeah, I mean he works, he’s dependable, and he’s everything I want in a relationship.
-I think it’s going to be ok
Well, it won’t be!
On the other side. The men’s side. I hear a completely different story. How their wives have turned on them, especially after children. No sex, no empathy, they expected them to provide and just do what they say and cater to their every whim or emotion on the basis of ‘’happy wife, happy life’’. That phrase makes me so angry!
I once had four men in the car, two were divorced, one was on the brink of divorce, and one was so deprived of sex he was finding any women he was looking at sexy. All of them have married women that thought like the one in the conversation above.
Women that truly believed, not felt, but truly believed that it’s going to be ok anyway. But obviously, it’s not. Because when a woman doesn’t like you and you try to touch her romantically. She gets so creeped out by it that her hair stands on end and shivers of repulsion go down her spine. No wonder she can’t touch you anymore. This very thing is why women get so emotionally damaged after rape.
Asking women what they want in a man won’t help. Because they can’t explain it verbally. They feel it!
So, what is a real man?…
A real man is a ‘’dangerous man that can control himself’’, in the words of Jordan Peterson. And he is absolutely right. Because dangerous means exciting. It’s beauty and the beast. She wants to be the one who can tame him.
But that’s just part of the equation. The other part is…
No matter how much you love her, you are willing to walk away if she doesn’t meet your standards anymore, and you have the ability to attract another woman immediately.
This is a type of a man that is free. Has choices, and not just in choosing women, but in choosing if he wants to provide for his family. Do you understand what I’m saying…
‘’He chooses to provide for his family’’
In other words, he does not do it because of a sense of duty. He does it because he wants to do it. Because he gets what he needs out of it.
But this, sadly is looked at as toxic masculinity and frowned upon nowadays. And no wonder men are so mixt up. And if you are not the kind of man I am describing above, it’s ok. You can become one. It won’t be easy. But it’s going to be worth it.
I am proof it can be done. I am not fully there yet but that is the direction I am heading. Because once you learn this and most importantly you feel it. You can never go back. And your life will get so much better. And the woman who will be with you, will be happy as well. Because she gets what she truly needs and wants from a man.