The List Of Truths

We all fear stress and still, we are in a state of stress all the time. We fear fear and again we are in a state of fear all the time. We are stressed or fearful about this and that. All day long!

So much so that it has become part of our personality. And feel uneasy if we are not in those states, which we perceive as being detrimental to our lives, our work, and our families.

We are so focused on these bad states that we don’t even think or put into perspective what they actually bring us. We know they bring bad things or states, but we just move on. And try to not look too much into it. Because (we think) it will make us even more stressed or fearful or whatever.

But the truth is, we need to look right at them. Stare them in the face and see what actually is going on.

‘’What do those states bring me?’’

So, I have devised a tool for myself. In which I list the emotion and ask what it brings into my life. And it goes something like this…

What does prolonged stress bring into my life? (I have said prolonged because a little bit of stress is good)

• It shuts off my thinking and makes me stupid
• It keeps me in fight or flight mode. So, my organs don’t receive the blood they need (because all of it goes to my limbs) and proper nutrients and I get ill
• If it turns into a shock. It rewires my brain instantly to a negative state

What being shy gives me?

• Women don’t like me or friendzone me
• I get used by many people because I can’t say no
• They perceive me as weird

What does fear bring into my life?

• It brings me anxiety
• It makes me uneasy
• It brings about the event I am fearing

So, by looking at all this. By looking at the concrete things, these states bring me. It shows me accepting to be in them. I am cutting myself short of the very things I want in my life. So, what to do?…

The easiest answer is’’ Stop Being in Them.’’

It might sound stupid. But if you ponder a little bit on it. You might just find the beauty, this simple answer gives you.