What Will People Say?

This is the oldest fear people have. ‘’What would other people say?’’ So, we go way out of our way to ensure people will talk nice about us or perceive us as nice. But why? Why is that?

Because we want to be liked!

That sentence kills so many dreams you wouldn’t believe. When we look for a job or approach someone we are interested in, we secretly, in the back of our minds, have the desire to be liked by them. Even if we don’t like them, we still want them to like us. So, we feel stress and anxiety and everything in between. Because we must have that certainty that we are liked.

But the thing we need to understand is… that even if people don’t like you or say something about you. They will eventually forget or move on because it’s just not that important to them. For you on the other hand will matter tremendously. And you will take that with you and obsess over it for a very long time. Possibly even a lifetime!

But it shouldn’t be this way… If you just understand that people don’t really care and don’t really think about you that much. You will be on their lips for a short period of time, sometimes not even that. And then they will move on, thinking about themselves.

Because that is what we do… we are self-centred. And everything revolves around us or about us. So, there is no space to think about what the other person has done last night. Only maybe if it comes into a conversation and then it passes.

This should be your superpower…

Knowing that nobody really gives a s**t and they will forget about it very easily!

And oddly enough people will like you more when you don’t need their approval. And you will have a better quality of life as a result of it. It’s counterintuitive, and you may even know this in the back of your mind, but keep it hidden.

So, if just let go and understand that people don’t care about what happened. You will be free to make mistakes, learn from them, and no psychological damage will occur. In other words…

You’ll be happy!