When Enough Is Enough
I was born one year after the revolution happened in Romania. It was the end of the communist era. Everyone thought it would be better. But shortly after, a big depression came. And people suffered.
I never knew my father and my mother married a guy because he had a flat in the city and not for love. She did what she thought would be good for me and her. The guy didn’t like to work so she worked extremely hard and was very stressed. Overworked and still with a communist mentality.
So, whenever stress would overwhelm her. Everything I did would annoy here and beat the s**t out of me. One time she beat me until 4am because I couldn’t learn a lesson, she wanted me to, for school. This was maybe second grade.
So, I was full of fears. I always ran from a fight. I became extremely shy. I couldn’t talk to girls, etc. And because of this I was bullied extensively up until 11th grade.
When I finished 11th grade, I was fed up with it. Enough was enough! I wanted a girlfriend. But I didn’t know how to act around a girl. So, I said I will search something on the internet. Back then the internet just appeared in Romania and was very slow. I searched and found one book called ‘’Double Your Dating’’ by David Deangelo.
It took me two hours to download the book. I learned English from cartoons. So, I read the book until 4 am and finished it the next day.
When you ask, and you’re ready the universe provides (this has happened to me many times in my life so far).
This was not a book about pickup lines or any of the sort. But this genius guy understood that there are so many people that can’t talk to girls because they’ve put them on a pedestal so high that they can’t even approach. Which made them be very shy. And he went on to explain that girls are just people, don’t like that pedestal thing and want to be treated like a human being.
Mind blown! I have never looked at it that way. So got out of my comfort zone. I changed my clothes (started to look at fashion). I would practice talking to any girl I could. And when 12th grade started. I went into the classroom and the girls in my class didn’t even recognize me.
I was dressed different; I could speak to them and be very funny and I had a crazy haircut with tribal signs. At the end of the first day one of the girls walked me home. She was in awe and tried to figure out why? How the radical change. I could see the fumes coming out of here ears. She couldn’t believe it. And I just enjoyed it.
From that point on I did not only have a girlfriend, but I would constantly be dating two girls at a time (I tried 3 but it was too time consuming 😊). I remember one time I called a girl after 3 months of getting her phone number. And she answered with ‘’I thought you would never call’’
There was no mistake, I wanted to be good at this. So, I experimented. I tried a lot of things. Saw what worked and what didn’t. And evolved into someone you would date, invite to parties, and have a good time with.
Moral of the story is…
When enough is enough you let go of fears and anxieties and just do. You act and accept the worst-case scenario. And that thing you feared, you will experience it. It will happen. I have been turned down buy a lot of girls. But it didn’t matter anymore. Because I was becoming somebody else. A better version of myself.
And I loved it!