Why Searching Outside Of Yourself Is ''Not'' The Way

We always try to improve ourselves. Always think of ways to make money, get more love or attention, and so on. We feel we are out of control and just can’t really get the thing we want. And it’s frustrating!

So then, we get angry with ourselves saying things like… ‘’I should have made it by now’’ or ‘’Why don’t I meet someone that really loves me and makes me happy’’ etc.

The thing is, we are so used to looking for confirmation from the outside world that we forget we have an inside world as well. It’s fantastic how well we forget this. Even when we know it intellectually.

The thing is it should be the other way around. We should get internal validation first and then external validation. For example…

• We love ourselves first and then we expect someone else to love us.
• We feel that we deserve money and then we go and get it.
• We enjoy our company and then we expect other people to enjoy it as well.

It all starts with us. With how we feel inside!